Anti-Bullying at Ysgol y Graig
At Ysgol y Graig, every child has the right to feel safe, happy, respected and included.
We take bullying seriously and want every child to know what bullying is, what it is not, and what they should do if they are worried.
Our message is simple:
TELL • TELL • TELL
Tell someone.
Tell again if it continues.
Keep telling until someone helps.
What is bullying?
An important part of understanding bullying is recognising that not every disagreement, argument or unkind incident is bullying.
Bullying is behaviour that happens repeatedly over time.It is when a person or group deliberately and repeatedly hurts, frightens, excludes or upsets another person.
There may also be an imbalance of power, where the person experiencing the bullying finds it difficult to defend themselves or make the behaviour stop.
Bullying might include:
The key words are:REPEATED • DELIBERATE • OVER TIME
What is NOT bullying?
Sometimes children disagree.
Sometimes friends fall out.
Sometimes somebody says or does something unkind.
Sometimes two children become angry with each other.
Sometimes children have an argument or want different things.
These situations can be upsetting and we will still help children to resolve them, but they are not automatically bullying.
Conflict is different from bullying.Conflict usually involves two people who disagree with each other, where both may be upset, angry or involved in the disagreement.
For example:
“We both wanted to play with the same toy and argued.”
This is a disagreement.
“My friend and I fell out at lunchtime and both said something unkind.”
This is a friendship conflict.
“Someone pushed me once when they were angry.”
This is unacceptable behaviour and needs dealing with, but one incident on its own would not usually be described as bullying.
“The same children deliberately call me names and leave me out nearly every day, even though I have asked them to stop.”
This may be bullying because it is deliberate and repeated over time.
Understanding the difference is important. It helps us respond to situations properly and give children the right support.
But if it isn't bullying, should I still tell?
Yes!
Something does not have to be bullying before you can ask for help.
If someone has hurt you, upset you, frightened you or made you feel uncomfortable, we still want you to:
TELL • TELL • TELL
Adults in school can help you solve disagreements, repair friendships, deal with unkind behaviour and stop problems from becoming bigger.
Who can I tell?You can talk to any trusted adult in school.
This could be:
You can also tell a parent, carer or another trusted adult at home.
If something keeps happening, tell us again.
If you do not feel that the first person understood how worried you were, tell another trusted adult.
Never keep a worry to yourself.What if I see bullying?Looking after each other is everyone's responsibility.
If you see someone being repeatedly picked on, hurt, frightened or excluded:
Do not join in.
Do not encourage it.
Be kind to the person who is being targeted.
TELL an adult.
Speaking up for somebody else is the right thing to do.
What about online bullying?Bullying can also happen online.
If someone repeatedly sends you upsetting messages, posts things about you, deliberately excludes you online or shares something to embarrass or hurt you:
Do not reply.
Do not share it.
Save or screenshot the evidence if you can.
Block the person where appropriate.
TELL a trusted adult.
Our Promise to YouWhen you tell us something is wrong, we will listen, take you seriously and help.
Sometimes what has happened will be bullying.
Sometimes it will be a disagreement, friendship problem or an unkind incident.
Whatever it is, we will help you.
We will listen carefully to find out what has happened, whether it has happened before and what needs to happen next.
At Ysgol y Graig we want everyone to learn how to manage disagreements, repair relationships, show kindness and speak up when something is wrong.
Remember
A disagreement is not automatically bullying.
An argument is not automatically bullying.
A friendship falling out is not automatically bullying.
One unkind incident is not automatically bullying.
Bullying is deliberate behaviour that is repeated over time.But you can ALWAYS tell us about something that is worrying you.
TELL • TELL • TELL
If something doesn't feel right — TELL.
If it happens again — TELL.
If it keeps happening — TELL.
Keep telling until someone helps.
At Ysgol y Graig, every child has the right to feel safe, happy, respected and included.
We take bullying seriously and want every child to know what bullying is, what it is not, and what they should do if they are worried.
Our message is simple:
TELL • TELL • TELL
Tell someone.
Tell again if it continues.
Keep telling until someone helps.
What is bullying?
An important part of understanding bullying is recognising that not every disagreement, argument or unkind incident is bullying.
Bullying is behaviour that happens repeatedly over time.It is when a person or group deliberately and repeatedly hurts, frightens, excludes or upsets another person.
There may also be an imbalance of power, where the person experiencing the bullying finds it difficult to defend themselves or make the behaviour stop.
Bullying might include:
- repeatedly calling someone names or making hurtful comments
- repeatedly leaving someone out on purpose
- repeatedly threatening, frightening or intimidating someone
- repeatedly hitting, pushing or physically hurting someone
- repeatedly spreading rumours about someone
- repeatedly targeting someone because of who they are or something that makes them different
- repeatedly sending or sharing hurtful messages, pictures or comments online
The key words are:REPEATED • DELIBERATE • OVER TIME
What is NOT bullying?
Sometimes children disagree.
Sometimes friends fall out.
Sometimes somebody says or does something unkind.
Sometimes two children become angry with each other.
Sometimes children have an argument or want different things.
These situations can be upsetting and we will still help children to resolve them, but they are not automatically bullying.
Conflict is different from bullying.Conflict usually involves two people who disagree with each other, where both may be upset, angry or involved in the disagreement.
For example:
“We both wanted to play with the same toy and argued.”
This is a disagreement.
“My friend and I fell out at lunchtime and both said something unkind.”
This is a friendship conflict.
“Someone pushed me once when they were angry.”
This is unacceptable behaviour and needs dealing with, but one incident on its own would not usually be described as bullying.
“The same children deliberately call me names and leave me out nearly every day, even though I have asked them to stop.”
This may be bullying because it is deliberate and repeated over time.
Understanding the difference is important. It helps us respond to situations properly and give children the right support.
But if it isn't bullying, should I still tell?
Yes!
Something does not have to be bullying before you can ask for help.
If someone has hurt you, upset you, frightened you or made you feel uncomfortable, we still want you to:
TELL • TELL • TELL
Adults in school can help you solve disagreements, repair friendships, deal with unkind behaviour and stop problems from becoming bigger.
Who can I tell?You can talk to any trusted adult in school.
This could be:
- your teacher
- a teaching assistant
- lunchtime staff
- a member of the Senior Leadership Team
- or another adult in school that you trust.
You can also tell a parent, carer or another trusted adult at home.
If something keeps happening, tell us again.
If you do not feel that the first person understood how worried you were, tell another trusted adult.
Never keep a worry to yourself.What if I see bullying?Looking after each other is everyone's responsibility.
If you see someone being repeatedly picked on, hurt, frightened or excluded:
Do not join in.
Do not encourage it.
Be kind to the person who is being targeted.
TELL an adult.
Speaking up for somebody else is the right thing to do.
What about online bullying?Bullying can also happen online.
If someone repeatedly sends you upsetting messages, posts things about you, deliberately excludes you online or shares something to embarrass or hurt you:
Do not reply.
Do not share it.
Save or screenshot the evidence if you can.
Block the person where appropriate.
TELL a trusted adult.
Our Promise to YouWhen you tell us something is wrong, we will listen, take you seriously and help.
Sometimes what has happened will be bullying.
Sometimes it will be a disagreement, friendship problem or an unkind incident.
Whatever it is, we will help you.
We will listen carefully to find out what has happened, whether it has happened before and what needs to happen next.
At Ysgol y Graig we want everyone to learn how to manage disagreements, repair relationships, show kindness and speak up when something is wrong.
Remember
A disagreement is not automatically bullying.
An argument is not automatically bullying.
A friendship falling out is not automatically bullying.
One unkind incident is not automatically bullying.
Bullying is deliberate behaviour that is repeated over time.But you can ALWAYS tell us about something that is worrying you.
TELL • TELL • TELL
If something doesn't feel right — TELL.
If it happens again — TELL.
If it keeps happening — TELL.
Keep telling until someone helps.